We got the news on Friday, October 28th. That Friday is Day 1.
Day 1-We got the bad news. We had tickets to a show we’d been looking forward to for months. We got dinner before. The hostess said “Just two?” Yup. There’s only two of us now. I cried twice while at the show. Once into Joe’s chest and once in a bathroom stall. I wanted to die.
Day 2-I didn’t brush my hair or my teeth. I did put on pants and went outside. I cried, a lot. I ate a lot and drank lots of wine.
Day 3-I did some cleaning. Had to get groceries in public. Made it all day, no tears.
Day 4-Back to work. I’m glad I had the weekend to process. Cried on my way to work. Today should have been our first ultrasound. Cried three times at work. Joe makes me laugh on the darkest days.
Day 5-I feel like I’m in a fog of sadness. This is my favorite time of year and I worry that it’s ruined.
Day 6-I’m making a lot of terrible jokes. Guess I’m coping. Tonight, I fall asleep with tear filled eyes. So many opportunities are lost.
Day 7-Started my morning off
crying sobbing at my desk. I’m angry and I don’t know where the anger needs to go. I’m sad. Tears flow freely. My friend rolled over and hugged me. An act of kindness goes a long way. Someone knocked over my “hope” sign. That’s reflects my life pretty well today.
Day 8-Blood draw. HCG was 12.4. I’m less pregnant each day? I guess. We did receive an Edible Arrangement from family. That was so thoughtful and made us feel so loved.
Day 9-Fun day with Amanda! At lunch, directly next to us were two couples celebrating a pregnancy. They opened gifts at the table. Guys, I think I’m being followed by pregnant people.
Day 10-I’m sleeping enough but I feel exhausted all the time. Doing everyday things is hard. Met with Nicole for some BFF time. I’m grateful for people who invest in me even though I’m not always the best company.
Day 11-We met with the doctor today and determined next steps. More meds this time around but we are optimistic. Support group met today. They give me life ❤
Day 12-Election Day. I had a pretty good day.
Day 13-My anxiety has heightened for several reasons but I’m doing better than I thought I would at this point.
Day 14- Another good day. Spent some time with a friend who encouraged me.
Day 15-I received surgery and transfer dates today. Also, the cost. About $6,000. The guilt I feel is heavy. I also got the news that I’m officially no longer pregnant. I got to see my Mom today! I broke down when I saw her. Overwhelmed by the cost of IVF again and that fact that I thought I’d be pregnant when I saw her next and I’m not.
Day 16 & 17-I had a wonderful time with my Mom. It was just what I needed.
Day 18-It’s always hard to get going after a fun weekend.
Day 19-While struggling with my own stuff, it was brought to my attention that my infertility makes some uncomfortable. That hurts.
Day 20-I’m hopeful. I’m excited for Christmas. Our transfer is right around the corner. Today, the clouds have lifted.